Something vampiric/demonic. I feel like some kind of Dorian Gray or Lilithian-style life/memory sucking is more appropriate than regular-old blood as your means of sustenance. Perhaps some kind of Vecna-style knowledge collecting? Makes sense in my head anyway. :P
I’m going to go against standard tumblr conventions and put my reply before the post I’m replying to; partly because I want to propose an idea that may change how you read the list and partly because that list is hella long. Anyway, to my post:
"What will this list, and the terms on it look like in a world where we actually have freedom from gendered expectations?"
No gender binary, no gender assignment, no “girly”, no “manly”; the very concept of identification will not make any sense because that identification will contain no information about the person identifying with it.
I feel like people imagine a post-gender world as “oh hey won’t it be cool/funny to see guys wearing skirts and women wearing suits and trans* people being accepted for who they really are”… but that maintains our assumptions about gender in that you are still able to meaningfully refer to “guys” and “girls” and “trans* people”.
Rather, imagine a world where you are unable to notice a persons gender — where the idea of there being two camps, or, indeed, any number of camps, is patently and demonstrably false. Imagine a society where no “feminine” things are associated with each other at all. A person who wears eyeliner is no more likely than the general population to also wear skirts or like flowers or whatever else is theoretically feminine. Likewise, no “masculine” things (fighting, cargo pants, unshaved body hair) are associated with each other.
What does it mean for a guy to be heterosexual, if there is no such thing as “guys” and “girls”? Are you saying “I have a penis and am only looking to date someone who has a vagina”? That sounds a lot like saying “I’m only interested in relationships that could result in us conceiving offspring together”. What does that mean for the gay* community? Isn’t the logical opposite of that “I’m only interested in relationships that couldn’t result in us conceiving offspring together”. By that description, a lot of relationships that we currently consider “straight” would start matching the “gay” definition a lot better. Beyond that, it all comes down to the individual’s personality (which, for the purposes of this thought experiment, do not align to current assumptions of gender). If there is no binary, how can bisexuals exist either? Polysexuals? Pansexuals? This all applies to the “romantic” variations too. Cisgender couldn’t exist and neither could transgender, agender, crossdresser, genderfluid, genderqueer, nonbinary, bi/trigender, Demigirl/boy, Dmab/Dfab, Amab/Afab, Camab/Cafab, etc. If there is no gender assumption, there can be no designation thereof, and it would be impossible to not identify with your assigned gender because neither the assignment nor the gender exist to be unidentified with!
Certainly a/demisexuals/romantics still exist, as would all variations of poly* since their “nonstandard” relationship with sex/relationships is not related to the gender or sex of anyone involved. Also, intersex and transsex people would obviously still exist, since their name refers exclusively to their relationship to their own genetalia.
What do dating profiles look like? Does it make sense to list what genetalia you have as your primary mate selection criterion? Or maybe it’s more important to list the style of relationship you’re seeking (whether you want a dominant personality in your partner, how often/how you’re looking to have sex, proximity, your plans for the future, do you want kids, etc.) and then just compare those criteria against everyone? Would that make finding a partner harder or easier? It would certainly simplify the nomenclature involved in describing oneself — though, you would have to actually describe your personality, which may be a new introspective hurdle for a lot of people accustomed to thinking of themselves and others through the lens of gender.
Anyway, even if you have vague thoughts on this, I’d love to see replies. I think that this is the direction many feminists/lgbt*-rights advocates are pushing towards whether they intend to or not, and it might seem scary, but I think the destruction of gender would be a net positive for the human race. Feel free to disagree with me in a reply!
Heterosexual: Male-identifying individual sexually attracted to a female-identifying individual, and vice-versa.
Homosexual: Someone attracted to someone of the same gender as themselves.
Bisexual: Sexually attracted to two or more genders.
Polysexual: Sexually attracted to many genders, but not all.
Pansexual: Sexually attracted to all genders. (this and bisexual, and sometimes polysexual, are often considered to be the same thing and different people may simply identify as any one of them due to their own personal reasons)
Demisexual: Sexually attracted to people only after forming a bond with them first.
Asexual: Having no /sexual attraction/ to others; having no desire to have sex.
Heteroromantic: Male-identifying individual romantically attracted to female-identifying individuals, and vice-versa.
Homoromantic: Attracted romantically to the same gender.
Biromantic: Attracted romantically to two or more genders
Polyromantic: Attracted to many genders (but not all)
Panromantic: Attracted romantically to all genders
Demiromantic: Romantically attracted to people only after forming a bond with them first.
Aromantic: Having no /romantic attraction/ to others; having no desire to be in a romantic relationship.
Polyamorous: Someone who is attracted to, and is comfortable with being in a relationship with more than one person at a time.
Transexual/Transgender (Term depending on generation and location): An individual who identifies as a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth to be. Often shortened to trans
Cisgender: Someone who identifies as the gender that they were assigned as at birth. (ex. matches their birth certificate) Often shortened to cis
Intersex: Someone who has ambiguous genitalia that doesn’t fit into our strict dichotomy of uterus or testes. Often forced into surgery to correct their genitals at a very young age, causing psychological and physical harm later in life
Nonbinary: Outside of the gender binary of male and female. (Can be used as an umbrella term or as its own identity)
Genderqueer: Outside of the gender binary. (**This is not an umbrella term like the post said before I edited it! Do not use this as an umbrella term for nonbinary individuals, simply use ‘nonbinary’. Queer is considered a slur and not everyone likes to be associated with the word)
Agender: Someone who feels gender neutral, or someone who experiences a ‘lack’ of gender.
Bigender: Someone who identifies as two separate genders.
Trigender: Someone who identifies as three separate genders.
Genderfluid: A gender that changes, or is ‘fluid’.
Demigirl: Identifying partially as a woman, but not wholly.
Demiboy/guy: Identifying partially as a man, but not wholly.
Dmab: Designated Male at Birth.
Dfab: Designated Female at Birth.
Amab/Afab: Same as dmab/dmab, except with ‘assigned’ instead of ‘designted’.
Camab/Cafab: Same as previous, except prefixed by ‘coercively’, to highlight the lack of choice.
Reblog to inform! And if there’s any I missed or anything that should be clarified, please message me! Always looking to expand the proper vocab. : )
**I edited this post because it used some archaic and incorrect terms/definitions, and needed more terms added to it. -Vivian Mareepe